It has become a norm of society to post exactly what we feel and exactly what we are thinking as our Facebook, Twitter, or other social media websites. While many of these thoughts are generally okay to post, it might not be in your best interest to post your disappointments online, as it makes you look like a negative individual, and makes people less likely to take your side in the future.
I learned this lesson from one of my mentors, George. N. Parks. Mr. Parks always preached that we should be be positive about life. Social media has led to complicated paradigm of people oversharing every aspect of their lives. We need to remember what it means to be a good person; what it means to be a respectful part of the community.
I am seeing via social media that people are posting their disappointment not getting a position for which they applied. These upset individuals realize that other individuals that they know received the position, and for whatever reason the upset individuals feel they were picked over in seniority or leadership capabilities.
Maybe the reason that these upset individuals were not picked was for the qualities they are now showing. We all have disappointments in life, but all you do is hurt the community that you are a part of when you negatively post about “unfairness” or make allusions to it. As Mr. Parks would say “Being a leader is to do the uncomfortable thing.” We should all strive to be leaders, and keep thoughts that may hurt individuals or a group out of social media.
The best thing you can probably do is write a letter to yourself, and remind yourself why you were interested in the position or group in the first place.
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